Category: Personal Development

The founders of CPF Entrepreneur began studying human behavior many years ago. He has written several books on adolescence, the transition from childhood to adulthood, and how to deal with the various challenges that arise along the way of becoming professionally active.

In these articles, you will find very useful and in-depth techniques, strategies and reflections to analyze where you are in your life and what measures you can take to improve your situation.

How to overcome failure

18 November 2022 (updated 13 November 2022) Published by

OVERCOME YOUR FEAR

If you are someone who seeks success and who takes big risks, one of your main fears is failure. Because failure leads you to lose self-esteem, confidence, security, and especially: it hurts.

To overcome it, it is important to understand where the fear comes from. It is a natural, human emotion. There are several variables, after having worked with many entrepreneurs, I realized that there is a list of very common reasons that bring fear even to the greatest:

  • Opinions of others
  • The amount of work it takes to accomplish the project
  • Lack of preparation
  • Lack of vision

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So how can we overcome a natural emotion? With those few variables in mind, the following tips can help you overcome this. The fear comes from your limiting beliefs. That is why something as trivial as the gaze of others can shock you.

If you keep doing the same thing you have always done, you will continue to achieve the same things that you have always achieved.

  • Opinions of others: Stop thinking about what others think of you. Focus on your project, on your path, on yourself. It is important that you understand one thing: everyone who has been successful has had the same fears. The reason they managed to achieve it is because they focused on what is really important, and left the superficial behind. What others say doesn’t matter until you’re done.
    I once asked a dear youtuber friend how he felt after reading the comments below his videos? He had realized that he had a lot of haters, but also a lot of positive comments. He answered me something very good:
    “You will never be able to satisfy everyone, the Internet brings out the worst in people. I don’t read the comments in my videos, because when I did I was afraid to continue doing more. Despite having millions of views in each one, and more than 10 million followers, I still have doubts. But I focus on the numbers: views, followers, clicks, and revenue. They don’t lie. If they keep going up, I’m doing something right. ”
    It is important to focus on your goal rather than what others think. You will know what they think through your results.
  • The amount of work: Many people calculate how much they will have to do, and the amount of money, time, sacrifices that it represents, and what they can lose by failing. That is also limiting thinking. It doesn’t matter how many hours, sweat and blood you have to put into your project, if you really believe in it, you don’t do it just to have money. Someone with a passion will not take that into account and if they fail, they will get something even better than money: experience.
    In my case, when I started GYOTranslation in 2009, I didn’t know how much work it was going to be, or how much money I was going to have to put into the project. It was a studio project at the beginning. I didn’t care that much. But when I started to generate money, I got more motivated, taking more and more time for the project, getting accounts of multi-national companies until overnight a competitor company, a huge group from Europe contacted me. They gave me two options: either they would buy me at a ridiculously low price, or they would take it upon themselves to kill my project. At the time I panicked and agreed to sell the company. For me it was better than watching my “baby” die without purpose.
    Financially, I earned just to pay off my college debt and credit cards. I was back to zero. But in experience, I have achieved so much that instead of being sad, depressed and not feeling like it, I got up and started FITS Connect two months later, and I financed it by getting a job as a university professor to have enough money to cover my expenses, and those of the company.

It is very important to see the “Big picture”, not to stay with what is in front of our nose but with everything that is around.

Failure is synonymous with lesson. And every lesson is an opportunity to do something better.

  • Lack of preparation: It is very simple. If you don’t feel ready, don’t do it yet. Take time to see your entire project in front of your eyes, to visualize it all the way. You have to be very familiar with your vision and your goal. If you are missing important data, do not jump in yet. Wait until you feel ready. You will not feel 100, because it is impossible to predict the future, but I can guarantee that you will feel it when you are ready to start.
  • Lack of vision: It is very connected with the lack of preparation, but even more with your real goal. If you are someone who wants to be an entrepreneur just to make money, forget it. No entrepreneur with that mindset will be successful, or at least not successful in the long run. Your vision must be bigger than you, bigger than money. You will not have any satisfaction in sacrificing so much if you only do it for the money. It is important to define the reasons why you do what you do. It will help you grow as a company, and as a person. If you do not get more than money for everything you do, your project will die, and it is a strong generator of fear for anyone.

OVERCOMING FAILURE

After failing, and that happens to all entrepreneurs, it is important to follow a process to get up again and not lose your hunger, your desire.

  1. Take time to heal emotionally: Failure breaks your heart. It is important to take time for yourself, ease your pain, reflect on mistakes, accept them, and move on.
  2. Remember that there is no success without failure: Think of the creator of KFC, Disney, Apple and all those entrepreneurs who achieved unusual successes. None have done it without pain, failure, tears, and sweat.
  3. Learn from your mistakes: Reflect on what you did well, but especially on what you did wrong. If you don’t learn anything from failure, you shouldn’t keep looking to be an entrepreneur. Judging yourself sounds difficult, but it is vital for you to get ahead.
  4. Change your mindset: Once the acceptance period has passed, it is important that you change your mindset. Practice, strive to be positive. Positivism is important to be successful. If you are positive, positive things will come your way.
  5. Think about your next challenge: It is important to look into the future, not stay in the past. If you stop growing, you die. So directing your vision in the right direction will help you put failure in the past, and move on with your next project. It is important to never give up.
  6. Talk to your mentor(s): A coach, mentor, partner, or anyone you trust can help you free your mind and heart in the event of failure. They will help you take the weight off your shoulders, and look ahead.
  7. Visualize your success: You don’t have it yet, but visualizing it is important. It motivates you, and it reminds you of the reasons why you are on that path. Never forget where you want to go.
  8. Surround yourself with positive people: A saying goes “Surround yourself with positive people, they have a solution for every problem. Negative people have a problem for every solution.”

Read also: How to improve my immunity to adversity?

CONCLUSION

Failure is hard and painful; however, it goes hand in hand with success. The way you handle your failure will determine whether you are successful, and the suggestions above will help you deal with it when the time comes. Remember to learn from each of your failures, rather than focusing on any mistakes you have made.

If you have a friend, family member, or colleague who needs motivation, be sure to share this post with them. Also invite them to hire a mentor from our program here.

The impact of stress on your health and well-being

13 November 2022 Published by

HOW IMPACTING CAN STRESS BE IN YOUR LIFE?

Stress manifests itself in many ways. In many instances, stomachaches, indigestion, insomnia, and other common symptoms can send you to see a doctor. Your doctor will give you a regular diagnosis: something you ate, a bacteria… etc he will give you a couple of medications to buy and that’s it. The reality is that for many reasons, and of very diverse manifestations, a very difficult problem to diagnose can be caused by stress.

Today, that disease (or condition) is all too common. From children to adults, we live in a stressful world. Everything must be fast, everything costs a lot of money, lives feel more complicated from generation to generation, especially since the technology boom of the 90s. It seems benign, simple, but many studies have shown the impact of stress on your health as well as your well-being. It can impact something simple like sleep, hunger, but it can also be much more serious and manifest itself in the form of dangerous, sometimes fatal diseases.

The advantage of living in these years of scientific and philosophical development is that we have more information, more remedies, and a deeper understanding of how to treat stress, how it impacts us, and especially how to avoid it.

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HOW STRESS IMPACTS HEALTH

  • Hypertension
  • Headache
  • Abnormal hunger/Weight gain
  • Premature aging
  • Memory loss
  • Hair loss
  • insomnia
  • Higher blood pressure
  • Slower and restricted digestion
  • Reduced sex drive
  • Common cold/flu

HOW TO AVOID/REDUCE YOUR STRESS

  • Avoid consuming caffeine
  • Exercise, run, move your body
  • Regulate your schedules to have a regular sleep
  • Find relaxation techniques and implement those that work in your daily routine
  • Talk to someone. Taking a load off your shoulders by talking to a third party can provide relief and reduce your stress level. Keeping your emotions and frustrations inside is very bad for your mental health
  • Write. If you can’t talk to someone, it can be very therapeutic to write your problems, thoughts, emotions in a journal.
  • Take control of your life, get organized and start implementing a routine if you don’t have one. Feeling in control helps you lower your stress level
  • Learn to say “NO”. Today it is important not to be a “Yes Man/Woman”, someone who says “yes” to any request from a boss, friend or family member. If you keep adding more commitments to your life, it becomes more and more difficult to manage your time, maintain your routine, and stay stress-free.
  • Stop from time to time. Especially if you feel sick, may it be a flu or something heavier. You have to take care of yourself when your body sends you a signal that it is no longer up to your rhythm. Listen to what he tells you and you will recover faster, and you will learn to stay in better condition
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Are your beliefs limiting you?

10 November 2022 (updated 10 November 2022) Published by

A belief is a feeling that reassures you about the meaning of what you know or think. Create in your mind a kind of MAP, a path, which allows you to arrive where you want to go. Two problems with an individual’s beliefs are:

  1. Beliefs are a generalization of past experiences (good and bad).
  2. Beliefs are formed unconsciously and are very difficult to identify and change because once implemented they become part of your personality.

The problem with limiting beliefs: These are thoughts that can keep you from doing something you really want to do. It can mean losing business opportunities, building relationships with people, growing personally and, therefore, growing your projects/businesses.

Think about it for a second: did you have any projects that you never started or finished? Have you wondered why? It doesn’t matter what reasons you justify for accepting your failure or your lack of commitment to do so. The only real reason is that your limiting beliefs kept you from doing it.

WHERE DO LIMITING BELIEFS COME FROM?

There are 5 areas that can create these beliefs:

1- Events

The day you graduated, the death of your best friend or relative, the birth of your child, that deal that changed your life, a car accident, and even extreme situations like a terrorist attack. Events have a profound impact on our lives, causing us to form beliefs, often unconsciously, that affect our view of the whole world. Can you think of an event that impacted you positively or negatively?

2- Past results

We all create beliefs based on the results of past successes or failures. But past results are not equal to future results. It is important to gather certainty and trust based on successes, even small ones. Collect positive results in your memory to believe that you can achieve what you want to undertake. Focusing on bad experiences will train a mind limited by fear of past failures.

3- Environment

Free yourself from this story that everyone eats that you are a product of your environment. Oprah, Steve Jobs, Nelson Mandela did not come with a path that predestined them for great things in the world. But they decided that their surroundings didn’t dictate who they were or what they would believe. While circumstances can sometimes be difficult, each of you has the power to choose what you believe and think in order to become the captain of your destiny.

4- Knowledge

Knowledge is not power. Perhaps this is the potential power. Knowledge becomes power when applied. It can be a dynamic tool for breaking down the walls of limiting beliefs. Become a lifelong learner and never stop learning. Connect with people who know more than you. Closeness is real power! Do your best and learn from your experience, so you can create the beliefs that will force you to succeed.

5- Vision of the future

Just as past experiences affect your thoughts about what is possible, so does your imagined experience of the future. It is absolutely essential that you create an irresistible future. Have your own vision with a map of why no one else can do it for you. Set yourself up for success by taking a few minutes to visualize your success. Then make it compelling by writing down reasons why you should do it that way. Imagine how you will feel if this is your future. Finally, anchor it in your body, celebrate it daily, and build it into your routine until you make it!

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Become a master of negotiations

10 November 2022 (updated 20 November 2022) Published by

In life, same as in business, everything is about negotiations. You do it everyday. It could be negotiating a contract for a new job, a better salary, a loan from your bank, shopping at a flea market, or simply negotiating with your spouse about what to watch on Netflix tonight. Negotiation is an unavoidable part of life… and not always a pleasant one.

When negotiating, each party wants to give the illusion of control so they can have the upper hand. And we all wish we could know what the other is thinking or feeling. Are they going into the negotiation feeling confident? Are they firm on their offer or are they willing to compromise? Are you happy with the offer that is on the table? If only we knew the answers to these questions, then we could more confidently and accurately determine our next action.

Luckily, it is possible to read the person in front of you. They all give off non-verbal cues that can help you determine what the other person is thinking and/or feeling. Regardless of their poker face. In fact, our non-verbal actions speak much louder than our words. I was really surprised when I first learned that 55% of communication is nonverbal, 38% of communication is tone of voice, and only 7% of communication comes from the words we say.

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Reading the face

If you feel that the face made does not match the words spoken, it is very likely that they do not master the subject or that they do not feel convinced by what you say. Someone sure of himself will have facial expressions that match the words. For example, I’m sure once or twice your spouse told you that (s)he hated you, but with a nice smile and a little redness on their cheeks. Which means he doesn’t mean (s)he really hates you. The words must match the face.

The use of hands

Hands say a lot about a person. For example, someone who touches their face, nose, ears or chin a lot can mean that they are lying or insecure, destabilized.

Also in a meeting, face to face at a desk or table, if the person clasps their hands behind their head and leans back, that’s a negative gesture. It is a gesture of arrogant confidence. It is too strong a gesture to do in a room with only two people. It means that they think they are better than you, not realizing that it diminishes their real importance. It can be an attribute of a person with a poorly managed ego (or bluff!). It opens many windows of opportunity to win the negotiation.

The use of the arms

When you look at their arms, notice if they are crossed or uncrossed. Remarkably, if their arms are not crossed and they use them gesturally to speak, they are quite confident, even open to discussion.

Then there is the “arms crossed” situation. There are few ways to cross them. And they all mean very different positions.

  1. Having their arms crossed with their hands and fingers visible is usually fine. It means that they are thinking, analyzing the words and the non-verbal cues.
  2. However, if their arms are crossed but you can’t see their hands or fingers, it’s a defensive position. Negotiations will be difficult because the person isn’t exactly open to conversations (yet). It doesn’t mean you can’t win though.
  3. A bonus: check (if you can) if they have both arms and legs crossed. Don’t waste your time on this one. It is a double shielding of the person. You won’t be able to get anything out of him/her unless you have a hidden card up your sleeve.

Body position

Our body should always look where our mind wants to go. Which means that you should always face your counterpart with your shoulders squared in front of them.
If my body isn’t looking directly at him/her, it could mean my mind isn’t focused on him/her either. It could mean I’m in a hurry, I don’t want to be here, I have something more important to do.

Plus, you should know by now, when someone leans forward, he’s interested. When they lean back, they are not.

Read also:Does it take 99 “no’s” to get a “yes”?

 

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