OVERCOME YOUR FEAR
If you are someone who seeks success and who takes big risks, one of your main fears is failure. Because failure leads you to lose self-esteem, confidence, security, and especially: it hurts.
To overcome it, it is important to understand where the fear comes from. It is a natural, human emotion. There are several variables, after having worked with many entrepreneurs, I realized that there is a list of very common reasons that bring fear even to the greatest:
- Opinions of others
- The amount of work it takes to accomplish the project
- Lack of preparation
- Lack of vision
So how can we overcome a natural emotion? With those few variables in mind, the following tips can help you overcome this. The fear comes from your limiting beliefs. That is why something as trivial as the gaze of others can shock you.
If you keep doing the same thing you have always done, you will continue to achieve the same things that you have always achieved.
- Opinions of others: Stop thinking about what others think of you. Focus on your project, on your path, on yourself. It is important that you understand one thing: everyone who has been successful has had the same fears. The reason they managed to achieve it is because they focused on what is really important, and left the superficial behind. What others say doesn’t matter until you’re done.
I once asked a dear youtuber friend how he felt after reading the comments below his videos? He had realized that he had a lot of haters, but also a lot of positive comments. He answered me something very good:
“You will never be able to satisfy everyone, the Internet brings out the worst in people. I don’t read the comments in my videos, because when I did I was afraid to continue doing more. Despite having millions of views in each one, and more than 10 million followers, I still have doubts. But I focus on the numbers: views, followers, clicks, and revenue. They don’t lie. If they keep going up, I’m doing something right. ”
It is important to focus on your goal rather than what others think. You will know what they think through your results.
- The amount of work: Many people calculate how much they will have to do, and the amount of money, time, sacrifices that it represents, and what they can lose by failing. That is also limiting thinking. It doesn’t matter how many hours, sweat and blood you have to put into your project, if you really believe in it, you don’t do it just to have money. Someone with a passion will not take that into account and if they fail, they will get something even better than money: experience.
In my case, when I started GYOTranslation in 2009, I didn’t know how much work it was going to be, or how much money I was going to have to put into the project. It was a studio project at the beginning. I didn’t care that much. But when I started to generate money, I got more motivated, taking more and more time for the project, getting accounts of multi-national companies until overnight a competitor company, a huge group from Europe contacted me. They gave me two options: either they would buy me at a ridiculously low price, or they would take it upon themselves to kill my project. At the time I panicked and agreed to sell the company. For me it was better than watching my “baby” die without purpose.
Financially, I earned just to pay off my college debt and credit cards. I was back to zero. But in experience, I have achieved so much that instead of being sad, depressed and not feeling like it, I got up and started FITS Connect two months later, and I financed it by getting a job as a university professor to have enough money to cover my expenses, and those of the company.
It is very important to see the “Big picture”, not to stay with what is in front of our nose but with everything that is around.
Failure is synonymous with lesson. And every lesson is an opportunity to do something better.
- Lack of preparation: It is very simple. If you don’t feel ready, don’t do it yet. Take time to see your entire project in front of your eyes, to visualize it all the way. You have to be very familiar with your vision and your goal. If you are missing important data, do not jump in yet. Wait until you feel ready. You will not feel 100, because it is impossible to predict the future, but I can guarantee that you will feel it when you are ready to start.
- Lack of vision: It is very connected with the lack of preparation, but even more with your real goal. If you are someone who wants to be an entrepreneur just to make money, forget it. No entrepreneur with that mindset will be successful, or at least not successful in the long run. Your vision must be bigger than you, bigger than money. You will not have any satisfaction in sacrificing so much if you only do it for the money. It is important to define the reasons why you do what you do. It will help you grow as a company, and as a person. If you do not get more than money for everything you do, your project will die, and it is a strong generator of fear for anyone.
After failing, and that happens to all entrepreneurs, it is important to follow a process to get up again and not lose your hunger, your desire.
- Take time to heal emotionally: Failure breaks your heart. It is important to take time for yourself, ease your pain, reflect on mistakes, accept them, and move on.
- Remember that there is no success without failure: Think of the creator of KFC, Disney, Apple and all those entrepreneurs who achieved unusual successes. None have done it without pain, failure, tears, and sweat.
- Learn from your mistakes: Reflect on what you did well, but especially on what you did wrong. If you don’t learn anything from failure, you shouldn’t keep looking to be an entrepreneur. Judging yourself sounds difficult, but it is vital for you to get ahead.
- Change your mindset: Once the acceptance period has passed, it is important that you change your mindset. Practice, strive to be positive. Positivism is important to be successful. If you are positive, positive things will come your way.
- Think about your next challenge: It is important to look into the future, not stay in the past. If you stop growing, you die. So directing your vision in the right direction will help you put failure in the past, and move on with your next project. It is important to never give up.
- Talk to your mentor(s): A coach, mentor, partner, or anyone you trust can help you free your mind and heart in the event of failure. They will help you take the weight off your shoulders, and look ahead.
- Visualize your success: You don’t have it yet, but visualizing it is important. It motivates you, and it reminds you of the reasons why you are on that path. Never forget where you want to go.
- Surround yourself with positive people: A saying goes “Surround yourself with positive people, they have a solution for every problem. Negative people have a problem for every solution.”
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Failure is hard and painful; however, it goes hand in hand with success. The way you handle your failure will determine whether you are successful, and the suggestions above will help you deal with it when the time comes. Remember to learn from each of your failures, rather than focusing on any mistakes you have made.
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